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How To Find Happiness

How To Find HappinessDo you ever wonder what makes some people just appear really happy, all the time? If you’d like to know how to find happiness, then who would be better to learn from, other than the happiest man in the world? According to researchers at Wisconsin University, French Tebetan monk and molecular geneticist, Matthieu Ricard, is happier than every other person on the planet. (I do wonder how they concluded their findings to be absolute, but let’s roll with it for now.) [Read more…]


Manage Your Focus, Not Your Time

Focus on goals, not timeManage your focus, not your time, says Ariel Diaz, CEO of  Boundless. This really caught my attention as most of us focus on time management and how to manage our time with the help of fads such as to-do lists and day plans. Now whilst they’re useful to a certain degree, they lack a ‘why’ for the entrepreneur – or anyone for that matter. If your day is filled with ‘to-dos’, it’s easy to lose motivation and sight of what you’re aiming for – and before you know it, a whole heap of time has flashed past your life. [Read more…]


10 Steps To Successful Goal Setting

If you’re still on the fence trying to decide whether or not you should set yourself goals, then these 10 steps to successful goal setting  should help you appreciate how goal setting will help you focus. Most people in life don’t set themselves goals, and end up coasting through life, living in reactive mode. It’s the norm. When you set goals though, this puts you into proactive mode when you start to take control of your life and steer it in the direction in which you’d like to go. Goals create a destination, from which you can create a road map and action plan.  Without a destination, you’ll have no way of knowing how to get there! Check out these tips from Bradley Foster for the Huffington Post:

Goal Setting For Focus1. Belief. The first step to goal setting is to have absolute belief and faith in the process. If you don’t believe you can absolutely transform your life and get what you want, then you might as well forget about goal setting and do something else. If you are in doubt, look around you. Everything you can see began as a thought. Make your thoughts turn into reality.

2. Visualize what you want. Think of what you deeply desire in your life or where you want your company to be a year from now. What changes have to take place? What do you need to know or learn? What spiritual, emotional, personal, financial, social or physical properties need to be addressed? The clearer you are with each of these dimensions will bring your vision into sharp focus. The clearer you are, the easier it will be to focus on making it happen.

3. Get it down! Writing down your goals is key to success. By writing down your goals, you become a creator. Failure to write down your goals often means you will forget them or won’t focus on them. Have them written down where you can see them every day.

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I love the first of these 10 steps to successful goal setting. Everything surrounding us began as a thought – the buildings, streets, businesses, sports, recreational activities, cars,  furniture, aeroplanes, space shuttles – everything started off as a thought. Whatever we have produced or created in our own lives began in our internal world – as a thought. Knowingly or not, the friendships and relationships we’ve made, the sports we play, musical instruments we play, business connections we’ve made, our working lives – all began in our internal world. Visualisation is an incredibly powerful concept and proven method to help realise goals. Athletes use visualisation to help them win their games. They visualise their desired outcome, as if it’s already happened. They create mental mind movies and conjure up the emotions they’ll experience on realising their outcome. You’ve got to see it, to believe it!


Seven Strategies For Success in 2013

As we begin the New Year we often reflect on the previous and make choices about how we’d like to make changes. These seven strategies for success in 2013 will help you do just that. It may be that you’ve had a wildly hard working and financially successful year and want to calm down a little to spend more time with friends and family. Or, it may be that you’ve not achieved everything you wanted to achieve last year and are wanting to gear yourself up for greater challenges. Whatever your reflections tell you, take a few minutes out to read this advice from Paula Davis-Laack for Psychology Today.

Successful new year1) Embrace the three C’s. Not long after I started my business, I saw a friend of mine who I hadn’t seen for awhile. After we hugged hello, she remarked, “Whatever you are doing is working – you are positively glowing.” The happiness that she saw bubbling up in me had nothing to do with anything extrinsic (money, cars, new clothes), but the type of motivation that makes you happy in your core.

According to psychologists Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, in order for you to get more of that glow-in-the-dark happiness, you should pursue goals that foster relatedness (connection), experience mastery (competence), and autonomy or freedom (choice).

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Which of these seven strategies for success in 2013 will you adopt right away? This first point allows you to align your goals with your deepest values – if indeed you set goals. If you don’t set goals, think about it – and that’s not just financially, but can be applied to health & fitness, relationships, friendships, hobbies, sports, desires and aspirations etc. Goals create a destination which allow you to form a road map in order to get there. Without a destination, there is no road map, so how will you get there? Check out the posts on goal setting and visualisation to find out more. Now is a very good time to do it!


10 Tools For Creating New Beginnings

As we rapidly reach the end of 2012, you may be wondering where the year went. It may be that you have had a highly successful year and wouldn’t have it any other way, or you may be feeling a little frustrated that you haven’t achieve certain things, and that may be related to love, finance, relationships, health or anything else. If you do fall into the ‘slightly frustrated’ category, it may be worth reflecting on all the positive achievements and progress that you’ve made. And then think how you want to make changes. If you are wanting to make big changes then these 10 tools for creating new beginnings from Psychology Today are well worth considering.

  1. Approaching the New YearStarting over is not the same as recouping from a failure. It is a new beginning, and you have gained experience and knowledge to help you reach your goals. Reignite your passion by imagining what it will feel like when you achieve the desired result.
  2. Moving through life is like climbing stairs. You go up a step or two, and then you level off and you may go down a step, but you are still higher than you were. That’s the process of life (and therapy) nothing is ever a straight shot. Have some patience with yourself and with your newfound direction.
  3. You can create a whole new life if you want it. You just have to approach it in the right way. Sometimes little ideas can turn into big things. Visualize a positive outcome for your issue. Medical doctors recommend visualization to patients with chronic and potentially fatal illnesses. If it can help them, it can do the same for you.
  4. Endings are not necessarily bad things. Even if you lost your job, savings or home, what comes to you in the future may be better than what you had. Sometimes the phoenix has to burn, so it can rise again.

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I thought the first point of these 10 tools for creating new beginnings is worded slightly unfavourably, as I don’t believe in the word failure – certainly if we’re talking business. I think people make mistakes and have temporary set-backs, from which you can get feedback, learn from and move on. I love the idea of visualising end goals though – and ensuring those end goals are positive. You can go as far as creating ‘mind movies’ of how you’ll feel emotionally when you achieve that goal. When you do this, whatever needs to be completed between now and that end goal becomes less significant, and you just get on and do them. Challenges and obstacles are shrunk, you can break them down, and make them happen. Bring on 2013!


We Are What We Believe

This article really grabbed my attention as it explains what stands between most people and success. We are what we believe, it’s our limiting beliefs that stop us from being who we want to be, and those limiting beliefs are ingrained in us from childhood. As creativity expert, Sir Ken Robinson rightly points out, we are all born creative, it’s just that most of us are educated out of our creativity, as we are steered towards “financial security” and “safe income” – unfortunately, that doesn’t lead to true happiness, and most people lead unfulfilled lives because they’re not doing what they should be doing – and that’s focusing on their innate talents and and strengths.

We Are What We Believe

Think Outside The Box

What you perceive is what you believe. Your personal perception of reality is determined by the beliefs you hold. This does not necessarily make them real, except for the fact that you believe they are. Your beliefs create and dictate what your attitudes are. Your attitudes create and dictate how you respond—in other words, they dictate your feelings. And your feelings largely determine how you behave.

Research has demonstrated that most emotional conditioning and habitual behaviors were set in place, in fact were programmed, very early in life by parents, peers, teachers, and the like. Basic core beliefs, behaviors, and attitudes held by these significant others are often simply accepted as “fact” and become the “truth.” Children do not develop the capacity for critical conscious scrutiny until much later in life. Once “hard-wired” within our subconscious mind, these beliefs, behaviors, and attitudes become firmly entrenched and the individual largely operates from the programs installed in early life. As adults, these old programs are still running our lives, even though they make no sense, limit our expectations, and may even be detrimental to our well-being.

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So how do you shift your belief system you may be asking? If we are what we believe, we need to rewire our brains – and that’s not so easy! I’ll let you into a secret, I’ve been working on this for the last year or so, as I’ve really caught onto the fact that we’re all conditioned, and that there is much more we humans than most people believe. I’ve read a number of great books, including “The Secrets Of The Millionaire Mind” by T. Harv Eker, and I highly recommend that read. Even though it’s geared towards wealth, he points out that money really means nothing if you’re in the right place on the inside, so it’s really a general self-help book, as is Think and Grow Rich – that most successful entrepreneurs I’ve met recently have all read. Napoleon Hill examined the minds of 500 of the world’s wealthiest individuals at the time (it was first published in 1938) and he reveals the secret behind their success. Again, these individuals don’t just have wealth, they have love, health and faith.


Motivation For Goal Achievement

It can be demoralising when you set goals and miss them. We’ve all been there and it’s not uncommon. Interestingly it can be down to your motivation for goal achievement and recent neurological research has suggested that there are 2 motivating factors that act independently from one another in your brain; the “why” and the “how”.  Elliot Berkman and David Rock explain all in this rather scientific article for Fast Company.

Motivation For Goal Achievement

Motivation for goal achievementCarver and Michael Scheier would answer that you’re actually doing both at the same time. This is because both actions–typing words and authoring a novel–are embedded within the same goal hierarchy that contains multiple and different aspects of the goal. Motivation is represented at higher levels of the hierarchy and mechanics are represented at lower levels; asking why moves you up in the hierarchy, and asking how moves you down. With the pitcher, finding his release point is the way, but striking out the batter is the will. To succeed at most goals, both pieces are required–without a will, there’d be no need for a way, and without a way, there is no means to achieve the end–and, critically, the two must remain connected to one another to sustain goal pursuit through to success.

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So if you you can get your head around this, you’ll have deduced that there needs to be a “why” and a “how” motivating factor attached to each goal that is set, or at least, the brain needs to understand both perspectives. They need to remain connected. This makes total sense and is why visualisation is so important when it comes down to goal setting; this provides the “why” – if you can imagine yourself, clearly having achieved said goal in say 3 months’ time, particularly if you attach emotion to the visualisation, then the “how” elements of achieving your goal become less significant and less arduous. They’re just little things that need to get done, rather than massive obstacles that stand in your way.



Ways To Focus And Get Centered

If you think multitasking is effective, then think again! Here are some ways to focus and get centered written by Martina McGowan for Business2Community.com. Women are better at multitasking than men apparently, but is that really a great thing? I’m about to get some unlikes for that comment. Not only does multitasking lead to counter-productivity but it’s been scientifically proven to be damaging to our brains.  This article caught my attention as it’s another example of how multitasking is ineffective. In order to achieve, it’s vital to hone in one one task at a time otherwise each task being attempted will only be completed at a lower level of competency.

Ways To Focus And Get Centered

Exert your self control! It is one of the most difficult things in the world to remain centered, but you must corral your thoughts to stop straying and return to the work at hand.

Find a purpose to help drive you. We commonly lack motivation if we lack a purpose. Without a reason that’s big enough, without a “why” that is part of you, you will have a tough time moving forward consistently. If the purpose is big enough, then the how will almost always handle itself. Failure isn’t even a fleeting thought.

Clear up your goals. Perhaps your goal is a million dollars or a boat that you wish to purchase when you reach your goal. Work toward your stated reason in incremental steps.

Find and repeat a “focus mantra.” Find your focus. Is it a boat? If it’s the boat in our example, then you will want to read about it, daydream about it, look online or in papers, travel to boat shows and stores and slowly but surely you produce enough thought energy in that area to help materialize all of the things, individuals, chances and cash essential to bring the boat into your life. The notion of the boat becomes real to you in a very emotionally charged way.

Make sure your want for the purpose is strong enough. The most crucial question to ask before you attempt to accomplish any goal is, “Do I truly have a strong enough desire to make this happen?” You need a powerful enough purpose to propel you and give you that magical gleam in your eyes when you consider it. If not, the work will prove futile. Simply search deeper and keep seeking that which truly sparks you.

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Please share these ways to focus and get centered if you liked them! I liked the point about repeating a focus mantra – it helps to communicate to your subconscious mind your dreams and aspirations. Your subconscious mind then works with you to bring those into reality. It helps to give you purpose and motivation  to do whatever you need to do, to enable for you to achieve those dreams and aspirations. It’s also completely in tune with the Law Of Attraction, and as Tony Robbins always says: “Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want, or don’t have” – if you focus on what you don’t want, then you’ll attract that into your life. By focusing on what you want, and visualise it, then equally, you’ll attract that into your life. Does that sound a little wacky? I don’t think so.


Ways To Focus And Motivate Yourself

If you struggle with motivation, then these ways to focus and motivate yourself, written by Donna M. White (LMHC, CACP) for Psych Central, are well worth a quick read. Motivation and focusing go hand in hand, as without one, the other will suffer. There are various reasons why people struggle with motivation, ranging from a lack of interest in the task in hand, lack of exercise, poor diet, depression, anxiety, fear of failure etc. A number of these reasons are easily remedied, but some are harder to fix. These tips may just change the way you think about your endeavors and help you get motivated.

Ways To Focus And Motivate Yourself

Ways To Focus And Motivate Yourself Whatever your reason for your lack of motivation, there are ways to get it back. These simple solutions may get you motivated in no time.

  • Weigh the cost of not getting the task done.

When you can’t think of a reasons to get up and get moving, think of what will happen if you don’t.  When we evaluate the costs of not getting something done the answer is usually something negative. If you’re not motivated to exercise, the costs could include gaining weight or health issues.  If you’re not motivated to go to work, the cost could include getting further behind.

  • Hang around inspiring, motivated people.

If I’m feeling lazy it sure doesn’t help if I’m hanging around other lazy people.  Surround yourself with other people who are motivated to do things.

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I liked the first point of these ways to focus and motivate yourself. When it comes to motivation, the majority of us are driven more by the fear of what will happen if we don’t do something, rather than through our desire to do or achieve something. So when you weigh up the costs of not getting the task done, this may just kick start you into getting the task done. Give it a go, write down a few ideas as to how you’d feel and what would happen if you don’t complete the task in hand. Once you’ve got them down on paper, keep them to hand and refer to them whenever you need to. Also write down your goals, and then visualise them and how you’d feel accomplishing them.


Ways To Focus In Your First Hour

Do you every wonder what you should be doing for the first hour of your day? Here are a few ways to focus in your first hour brought to you by Kevin Perdy for fastcompany.com. The advice in this article is well worth a read and includes suggestions such as to never check your email first thing, something I wholeheartedly agree with as you lose focus straight away. It is also suggested to do the weight-bearing tasks first of all to get them out of the way, and also customer service. See what you think. Something I’d like to add is to carry out your income generating tasks first thing and leave the admin for when your brain is half asleep. Or better still, outsource the admin.

Ways to Focus In Your First Hour

Ways To Focus In Your First HourGain Awareness, Be Grateful

One smart, simple question on curated Q & A site Quora asked “How do the most successful people start their day?”. The most popular response came from a devotee of Tony Robbins, the self-help guru who pitched the power of mindful first-hour rituals long before we all had little computers next to our beds.

Robbins suggests setting up an “Hour of Power,” “30 Minutes to Thrive,” or at least “Fifteen Minutes to Fulfillment.” Part of it involves light exercise, part of it involves motivational incantations, but the most accessible piece involves 10 minutes of thinking of everything you’re grateful for: in yourself, among your family and friends, in your career, and the like. After that, visualize “everything you want in your life as if you had it today.”

Robbins offers the “Hour of Power” segment of his Ultimate Edge series as a free audio stream (here’s the direct MP3 download). Blogger Mike McGrath also wrote a concise summary of the Hour of Power). You can be sure that at least some of the more driven people you’ve met in your career are working on Robbins’ plan.

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Which one of these ways to focus in your first hour did you most appreciate? You may have guessed that the quoted section was one of my favourite pieces (along with the advice not to check your email first thing). I’ve mentioned before on this site about how successful people such as Jordan Belfort, often start the day with an allocated time slot for being grateful for everything they have. To then visualise everything you want in your life as if you have it today, is just brilliant advice. Go Tony. By doing that, you program your subconscious mind and super conscious mind to work with you, and for you, to achieve that outcome.  This is slightly ‘out there’, but so true. We need goals to work towards; goals motivate us, and visualising those goals motivates us even more by making them real in our minds. Without goals in place, we’re coasting towards nothing. How can we create a road map without a destination?